Friday, February 3, 2012

Men, Women and the Space Between Us

On this day I was a little under the weather and stayed home from work, I just wanted to be draped in a blanket and that's kind of what I did. My mother has a number of gorgeous shawls so I borrowed this one, wrapped it around, belted it, and voila - sweater and blanket in one. Without having to wear a Snuggie.
One thing that I've become increasingly aware of by working on the blog is the idea of space, size and how they relate to femininity and masculinity. What I mean is that we have cultural norms that say femininity is defined (in part) by taking up less space, and masculinity is defined (in part) by taking up more space. Think about it. If you go on the subway, check out how a woman sits, body closed up, legs crossed, trying to appear tiny - feminine. Then look at men, legs wide open, taking up a seat and a half, usually unnecessarily, to show their sheer mass and size which makes them big and strong - masculine. 

Look at fashion, the tinier the heel of the shoe, the finer the fabric, a woman's desire to squeeze into a garment that's a size 2 instead of 6, are all in the quest for femininity. Men on the other hand, wear lots of layers, try to take up more space, and when I worked in retail, the men often bought clothes that were too large for them because they want to give the illusion of being larger. Men are mocked for having small hands, and women get mocked if they have large feet. I'm not making a value judgement. It's just been an interesting thing to observe. Ultimately I hope and wish that people could be comfortable in their own skin and size and space.
~ Photos by Nazia ~
Outfit Details:
Shawl is borrowed from mom
H&M top was a gift from Chris
Gap Jeans, also worn here
Payless Boots
Tristan & America Belt
I don't know where I got those silver hoops, I wear them all the time

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  1. fab cape! Passes to see me on my blog:
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    have a nice day…. Keep in touch …. Kiss Jeasmine

  2. Incredible and fun!

  3. That shawl is so pretty! Love how you belted it :)

    The Other Side of Gray

  4. Natasha - such a great comment regarding masculinity / femininity and size. Funnily, I was just thinking about two men I know that are approximately the same size but one of who seems to have more of a presence - partly because his clothes are more baggy!

  5. What a great shawl. The colors are amazing and I love how you cinched it in at the waist. :) I hope you're feeling better! Enjoy your weekend.

    xx Love & Aloha

  6. Wow great look!!!! Love your shawl. You also have beautiful hair :)

    Take care,Daniella xox

  7. amazing photos you look great

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    XO, Carmen

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  9. Beautiful print! Love the colors.

    - Shannon

  10. I absolutely adore this shawl- the color & the size!!

  11. Nice styling!

  12. I love this. I honestly wish snuggies were this stylish.I would be all over that.

  13. gorgeous outfit!
    now a follower of your lovely blog :)

    follow back?

  14. this shawl is sheer awesome. and oh god, i totally agree with men feeling the need to take up space, especially on the subway... it's really annoying sometimes! xx

  15. Fierce!!!! That throw is everything!!!

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    Have a nice day!

  17. This shawl is absolutely stunning. Great styling with the belt.


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